The past couple of years have been quite a rollercoaster ride for many. The COVID-19 pandemic has really changed the lives of many – including myself!
Before the pandemic, I was a teacher by day and a law student by night. I would teach computer and design subjects to middle-schoolers from 8AM to 3:30PM. Then, I would tutor/teach Math to some of them after classes. Afterwards, I would attend law school until 9PM. On the weekends, I would either come to work and take more law classes or take on freelance jobs. I basically spent every waking day working and studying.
Then, 2020 came and everything changed. My life changed. I had a baby in October; suffered in the hands of some people for quite a while; got an awesome job at a BPO; became a coach; and started this blog *wink*.
The COVID-19 pandemic has forced most of us to stay home all day, everyday. Those who used to work in office buildings are now working from home. I have always loved working from home, so this setup does not bother me at all. But for those who are used to seeing and mingling with other people on a daily basis, the sudden isolation can take a toll on their mental health. Working from home can be burdensome for them not just because of the workload, but because of the lack of socialization as well.
If you are feeling more stressed, anxious, exhausted, or agitated than usual, then perhaps you are experiencing a burnout. Learn more about burnout here – featuring yours truly. 😊
You don’t have to endure the awfulness of burnout. Here are some ways on how you can deal with it:
Never take yourself for granted. Surely, you want to take care of your loved ones; but you won’t be able to do that if you do not take good
care of yourself too. Remember that you cannot give anything that you don’t have. You cannot give love and care to others if you do not give love and care to yourself.
So, take a break. Breathe in, breathe out. Watch your favorite shows. Run – or walk – on your treadmill. Listen to music. Read a book. Sleep. Drink your favorite beverage. Engage in your hobbies… And of course, do not be afraid to say “no” to family and friends if necessary. Set boundaries. Take some time alone if you have to.
Being a solo parent of a clingy two-year-old boy and the breadwinner of a family of four tends to make me stressed. That’s why I make sure to get some relaxation in the form of watching my favorite shows, taking naps, and ordering my favorite foods. I used to live alone before the pandemic; but now I live with my family and my baby. So, I make sure to make self-care one of my priorities.
Delegate tasks or divide your workload accordingly.
You might be getting overwhelmed with work without you realizing it. If you have so many tasks on your list, consider delegating them to other people in your team. If you do not have the authority to do that, then perhaps you can reduce your workload.
You do not have to reduce your efficiency. Just try to work on what you can for the time being. Finish one task before beginning another. Seek help if necessary. Do not try to do everything by yourself.
I am the breadwinner of my family. I am the only one who works and earns money. Aside from our daily expenses, I also have mortgage and car payments. Plus, my baby’s milk, diapers, clothes, toys, and other necessities aren’t cheap. That’s why I work very hard. I take on a lot of jobs because I have a lot of expenses.
However, even though I have a lot of jobs, I still make sure to take a break and relax my mind. I always finish my tasks before starting a ne
w batch of projects. I refrain from biting more than I can chew. I also ensure that I do my jobs very well. I do not ever want to disappoint my clients!
Reduce your exposure to triggers or stressors.
Have some self-compassion and pay attention to what you need. Sometimes, your stress levels go up because you are exposed to people or situations that trigger you. So, do your best to avoid whatever or whoever it is that causes your stress.
Thanks to WFH (work from home), you no longer have to see people or be in situations that used to make you uncomfortable. But what if it’s the people you live with who make you stressed out?
My family, specifically my mother and my sisters, are my usual triggers. They are not as compassionate, supportive, and helpful as I would like them to be. They have a lot of time in their hands, so they tease, mock, and anger me on a regular basis. But they are my family. So, I just have to deal with them the best I can. In order to reduce my exposure to these “triggers”, I got my own house (which I’m turnin
g into an office). This way, I can work in silence and away from them, and be more focused on all my tasks.
There’s also my problem with my relatives. You see, some of my belongings have been stolen in my former home, where my relatives stay. I have reported them to the authorities; but because I live in the Philippines (LOL this third-world country), justice has not really been served. Now, I’m not pointing any fingers to anyone in particular because I don’t want to compromise myself with the oh-so-reliable Philippine Law. This story may be for another time…
Anyway, I have cut all forms of contact with said relatives for my peace of mind. They have been extremely toxic for my physical and mental health. They have put my life in danger in the past, and well… My things have been stolen inside the house where they currently live and work. So, there’s that… It is truly best to avoid them forever. For my sanity and safety.
Okay, so now we conclude this short blog post. Always keep in mind that you are the most important person to you. No matter how much you love your family, spouse, partner, or pets, you have to put yourself first; because if you don’t, then you will not be able to give love, care, help, and support. Do your best to avoid burnout, which can lead to health problems and unsafe thoughts. You need to take good care of yourself, so you can take good care of others.